What’s that saying? Life is 10% what happens to you and 90% how you handle it? Regardless, I think that’s an important point to remember. Yes, life can suck sometimes. In my current case, a whole heck of a lot. But even when it seems like everything is out of your control, you maintain control over one very important thing:
How you choose to view the situation.
You can pout and cry and yell and be upset. Heck, do that. But when you’re done filling tissues with copious amounts of snot and tears, it’s time to put things in perspective. Find the silver linings and opportunities. Accept the things you can’t change and choose not to dwell on them.
Being positive won’t be easy. You may have to force yourself to think in a way that seems like total bullshit at first. But do it. Eventually, that thinking will start to take over. It’ll become more natural. And before you know it, you’ll automatically choose to think about things in a way you can feel good about.
This is one reason I’ve been rambling on and on about journaling lately. I journal every single night before I shut out the lights. And one thing that I have to write down is something that made me smile that day. I could have had the most shit day ever, and I need to find one little thing that made me smile. Maybe it was the nice weather and sitting outside with my family. Maybe it was snuggling with Milo. Maybe it was listening to MTV with a cup of coffee in the morning before I got ready for work. If it wasn’t for my journaling and the act of forcing myself to make (literal) note of those things, I don’t think I’d notice them. I’d instead fall asleep thinking about the total shit thing that happened. And that’s no good.
The past couple months for me have been far from easy. And I see the next few months being challenging as well. But I also know something else. I can sulk and feel sorry for myself. I can rant and rave about how awful my life is. I can bitch and complain about everything that is out of my control. And not a damn person would fault me for that.
And I’m not saying I won’t do those things. I’m sure I will! But then I’m going to turn around and do everything I can to see the positives and the opportunities.
I won’t dwell on what was. I’ll daydream about what can be.
I’ll choose to see the good. I’ll pick HAPPY.